10 Important Symbols of Unity in Every Wedding You Must Have
22 January 2014
When planning for your wedding, you should make sure you have all your symbols of unity ready. These items are part and parcel of every wedding because of their significance and history. After the wedding, these symbols become keepsakes that remind married couples of their vows. Do you know what these symbols of unity mean? Here are ten unity symbols that are ever-present in weddings with their corresponding meanings:
- White Wedding Gown –the bride dresses in white as a promise of her purity and righteousness right before the eyes of God. By wearing white, the bride also sets herself apart from the rest of the entourage. The bright hue lets her shine from the rest of the people in the wedding.
- The Wedding Ring—is a symbol of the love between the man and the woman. The bride and groom wear a ring to signify their vow to each other—for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, until death. The ring, being a circle, also represents eternal love and loyalty. By exchanging rings, it also symbolizes that the bride and groom are giving each other all their resources.
- Bridal Veil—is another symbol of purity and modesty. The bride wears the veil in the early part of the wedding ceremony. As the ceremony nears its end, the husband lifts the veil and kisses the bride. This symbolizes the lifting of the barrier between man and woman so that they can live together in love as husband and wife.
- Throwing of the Rice—In the past, seeds were thrown at the newlyweds instead of rice. The throwing of seeds is a reminder to the couple of their promise to go forth and multiply. Also, wedding guests who throw rice at the couple do this as a wish of good fortune and bountiful blessings.
- Lighting of the Unity Candle—the lighting of the unity candle by the couple symbolizes the end of their singlehood as they move on to married life. It can also mean an eternal promise to love each other as husband and wife.
- Wedding Cord—symbolizes eternal unity or everlasting union. The wedding cord is usually looped to form a figure 8 and then placed around the neck of the bride and groom. This is done just after the couple made their vows, and while they are in a kneeling position.
- Wedding Coins or Wedding Arrhae—the word arrhae comes from the Spanish word “arras”, meaning earnest money. The groom gives the arrhae to the bride to symbolize that he will take care of his family, not only financially but emotionally and spiritually as well.
- Bride’s Garter—it is believed that a piece of the bride’s clothing brings good luck. So the groom takes off the bride’s garter and throws it to the male guests. Whoever catches the garter is believed to be the lucky gentleman to tie the knot next.
- Wedding Cake—the cake symbolizes the sweet life that awaits the newlywed couple. The act of cutting the cake, with the groom helping the bride, represents the first task the newlyweds have done together as a married couple. They each have to feed each other to symbolize their commitment to love and support each other forever.
- Bouquet—In the olden times, the bride carried a bouquet of flowers to mask foul body odor. People didn’t bathe much those days. But in this day and age, the bride’s hygiene isn’t a cause for concern anymore. Even though brides don’t need to hide their odor anymore, the tradition of carrying bouquets continues. During the reception, the bride throws her bouquet to a swarm of lady guests. It is believed that whoever catches the bouquet is the next to get married.
So get those symbols ready before the big day. Each of these symbols plays an important role in making your wedding more meaningful and memorable. Weddings are never complete if one or some of these symbols are absent. The ten we listed are very easy to find, so it shouldn’t pose much of a problem for the couple to obtain them.
Jo is Freelance Writer for 8 years now. She writes about Health & Fitness, Beauty Tips, Technology, & Relationship.
Live Happily Ever After: Tips For Newly Weds
10 December 2013
Getting married is considered a major milestone in one’s life. Walking down the aisle and tying the knot with that one very special person that you truly love is a dream come true for most women. But of course, this is just the beginning of a very long and worthwhile journey that will be jointly taken by the bride and groom.
Every marriage is sure to have its fair share of ups and downs, and both parties must do their part in finding and sustaining happiness in their married life. Here are a few important tips that would surely help newlyweds to adjust and cope with married life.
1. Come as you are
In love, we take everything in --- the good, the bad, and the unknown. Marriage is a tie that binds two people for life, and you should marry someone who loves you and accepts you as a total package -- your strengths and your weaknesses, including your flaws. This way, expectations are managed and you won’t find yourself looking for something or someone, or having expectations that are virtually impossible for your partner to meet.
2. Prioritize your partner
People who are deeply in love tend to make their partners the center of their universe. Of course, that feeling is impossible to sustain forever, given the numerous things that one has to manage over the course of time. Part of marriage is the commitment to share your life with your partner, so do not let him slide to the bottom of your priority list. In your own little ways, you should make it a point to make your partner feel significant.
3. Respect each other at all times
Arguments are sure to arise from time to time. Sometimes, people tend to let their emotions get the better of them which sometimes leads to unpleasant encounters. All couples must keep in mind that no matter how tough the situation is, they must be respectful even while resolving conflicts in the relationship.
4. Openly communicate with each other at all times
Communication plays a role of paramount importance in any relationship, regardless if it is romantic in nature or not. Keeping communication lines open is vital, since it would enable both parties to freely express their feelings, thoughts, wants, and needs in a straightforward manner.
5. Give each other enough personal space
Marriage binds two people into one, but you must always keep in mind that a couple is still composed of two unique individuals with different wants and needs. Each deserves time and space to be spent alone with each feelings, thoughts, and ideas respected and valued. Ample enough space must be given to one another, so as not to let your partner feel smothered.
6. Agree to Disagree
Since each individual has unique preferences and personal choices, couples must keep in mind that disagreements are sure to arise from time to time and are inevitable. The critical factor in every disagreement is how it will be handled. As mentioned, couples must communicate openly with utmost respect for one another especially when they are not on the same page about a certain thing.
7. Know what makes each other happy
Couples must make it a point to discover what makes each other happy and do these often. Doesn’t matter if it is big or small, as long as the effort is exerted, this would be enough to make your partner feel special and valued.
8. Maintain physical intimacy
Men and women have different sets of standards and expectations when it comes to physical intimacy. Both husband and wife must always be mindful of one another’s needs, and meet halfway to be able to fulfil these needs. Having children somehow lessens a couple’s time to maintain the level of physical intimacy that they had when they were newlyweds but physical relationship must still be regarded as a priority.
9. Never lose the fine art of dating
Just like having enough personal space, having a romantic time with one another also plays an important role in sustaining happiness in a relationship. Lots of responsibilities will make you feel exhausted and have less romance in your relationship, but you should not let the passion fade away because this would be the glue that can hold your marriage intact, especially during difficult times.
10. Always make time for free time
All work and no play will surely make Jack a dull husband and Jill a dull wife. In spite of the busy day-to-day schedule, you must make time for simply sitting back and relaxing as a couple, or with your children in order to avoid burnout and to get more fun out of your marriage.
A successful marriage is built on a solid foundation of love, trust, and selflessness. Couples decide to get married for a reason. And when the going gets tough, you must always remember those reasons which led to your decision to spend the rest of your life and grow old together. Follow these tips and you will find your own “happily ever after” ending.
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Seven Ways to Properly Handle Kids in Your Wedding
6 November 2013
Kids at Your Wedding–How to Manage Them Properly
Many couples prefer to have a grown-ups only wedding to keep the occasion more manageable and stress-free as possible. However, unless the occasion you are planning for is strictly a black-tie affair, a couple of kids will probably be in attendance for your big day. So to keep the little ones from wreaking havoc on your wedding, here are seven tips you can follow.
Be clear about who is included
Just because you have allowed kids on your wedding does not mean that everyone on your guest list can tag their children along. It may be difficult to exclude someone else’s kid on the list, but it is perfectly fine to limit the invitation to the children who are a part of your family and your fiancés family or those who are close friends to both of you.
Also, when inviting kids to your special day let the parents know in advance who among their kids are invited so they will not make assumptions. If, however, you did not include children on your invitation but someone RSVPs their kids, as uncomfortable as it may sound you may have to call them to let them know that you are sorry but you will not be able to invite everyone’s children and explain your inviting parameters–that you are limiting your guest list.
Assist parents to plan things out
Some parents would want to leave their young kids at home when they are invited to an event. They just cannot easily do so because they do not have someone to look after their kids. In such case, assist parents to plan for the event by giving them a heads up about the occasion’s itinerary ahead of time. This simple gesture will enable them to navigate the event so that it does not interfere with their young kids’ naptime and potty breaks.
Give kids responsibilities
With the uncomfortable clothes, cramped accommodations and long church ceremony, it is easy for kids to get bored. To keep the wiggles under control, consider assigning some responsibilities to children during the ceremony and reception. Obviously, the kids you are close to can be assigned as a flower girl or ring bearer. For other kids not to feel left out of the festivities, give them light responsibilities like passing out wedding programs or party favours. Assigning such little things to kids during an important occasion will make them feel important and appreciated.
Keep them separated
Even the sweetest kid could turn into a problem child as naptime is nearing, and there are also children with short attention spans who will do mischievous acts to kill boredom. To keep them from ruining your wedding and to allow adults to enjoy the party, arrange for a quiet room where kids can retreat to sleep. It is also a good idea to establish a separate playroom complete with movies, toys and snacks where kids can go and play under the watchful eye of a baby sitter.
Keep them distracted
If a separate room is not available or is beyond your budget, you will be able to manage the little ones properly if you seat them close to their parents rather than seating them with other children. Or, consider placing several activity tables within the reception area and fill it with non-messy crafts, toys and board games. Activity sheets and crayons are also excellent tools that will keep the children distracted.
Provide kids their own meal
When choosing food for your reception, do not forget to think about the children, too. Investigate whether your caterer provides kid-friendly menu and make sure to have it served during the reception. Forgo the filet mignon and save yourself some cash by giving the kids something as simple as a plate of fries and chicken fingers to satisfy their cravings. For dessert, cupcakes and make-your-own sundae bar are great choices. Also, do not forget to ask parents if their kids have any food allergies. The last thing you want is for one of the kids to be dashed to the hospital in the middle of your wedding’s party.
Do not think too much
Just the thought of having young kids on your wedding can make you feel a little uneasy. However, keep in mind that kids will be kids and you have to be prepared for the risks involved. Rather than sweating over the small stuff and worrying that they might ruin your wedding, just think that they can also bring instant surprise to your wedding that can make it all the more special. If you really cannot handle the thought of dealing with kid-related disruptions, consider making your wedding a grown-ups only affair. Just make sure to politely let your guests know about it and inform parents well in advance so that they can make care arrangements for their kids.
Millie Turner is a full time writer with a strong interest in discussing topics related to weddings. She also writes content for http://www.froxoffalkirk.com/.
*** Kids at wedding image courtesy of Paul Schultz/ Flickr